Support For A President Divides a Family

Inauguration Writing Advent Day 19-Prompt, photo and inspiration provided by Felicia Roth

"What confuses me is how after disrespectful Donald Trump has been toward women and minorities, that people within these communities or with family members and friends within these communities still support him. As a woman and a member of the LGBTQIA+ community, it is frustrating to know that family members and friends of mine have voted for him, some more than once. Over the past four years, I have been gradually isolating myself from Trump supporters who were once a part of my inner circle, even if we are related by blood.

Since Trump has been in power, he has divided us in ways I never thought possible, speech after speech after interview after interview-it's just astounding."

(Felicia pictured to the right, look at that smile!)

Just shy of a year ago I fell into the arms of the woman I hope to call my partner for a lifetime. My queen comes with strong morals and a strong, fighting voice to back it up. She is as liberal as they come and supports justice for everyone, equality for all, and fights against the oppressive Trump regime with a mighty force of words while defending those suffering his rhetoric most.

She is also the daughter of two parents who proudly support Donald Trump as our president.

I will admit I was shocked when hearing this news from my then newly found partner. Now, a year later much has changed but the shock has yet to leave me. Mostly because I have watched my partner fight with what she believes is right and also maintaining a relationship with her parents.

We all know the country is incredibly divided right now, but does it have to be?

My partner is not only a daughter of a Jewish father and a mother who devoted her entire life to social work, she is a sister. My partner is the youngest of three. She has a brother as well as an adopted Korean sister. Not to mention my partner identifies as a lesbian.

You may ask yourself at this point, as I did when I found out, how these parents can support a man who has degraded and attacked the very minorities that are present in their families. I do not know the answer to this question but I do know the answer to the unity needed to bridge this gap.

Listening. Engaging in conversations outside of our comfort zone. Providing space, a comfortable space filled with love and acceptance, no matter our views of the opinion being shared. But, most important, is opening your mind enough to possibly accepting or changing your views when met with knowledge that those views or the support of those with those views is dangerous to those you love.

All too often we berate those who think differently than us, especially in politics. I am guilty of this way of living. I experience many twinges of anger and frustration when met with someone who, STILL, supports a man that incites the worst in his followers. I am trying to hard to provide more empathy and space to hear these individuals and find our common ground of connection.

Tomorrow is a huge day in this country, the ejection of a tyrant and the beginning of a new and more progressive era. I pledge to go into this not with ego but love and acceptance. I do not want to boast that Trump lost but try to find out what drew so many to him as a leader.

“In true dialogue, both sides are willing to change”-Thich Nhat Hanh